Kirsty met Andy after he had left the army through ill health. Andy was very proud to have served in the Coldstream Guards and paratroopers but never really told Kirsty everything about his time in military service. Andy suffered a number of incredibly serious injuries during his time in the army which have left him with deteriorating health. The pair have been through years of medical tests, differing diagnoses and uncertainty trying to get to the root of Andy’s health problems. Kirsty finally felt some relief when she was put in touch with an army doctor and the military took over Andy’s care. She felt the military took responsibility for Andy and were much clearer and more decisive in suggesting treatment. The birth of their son was both a joy but also brought challenges as Kirsty had to manage so much. Kirsty describes how there have been so many near fatal moments with Andy’s health that they try to live in the now as much as possible. Discovering Help for Heroes has also made a big difference in their lives. Andy can spend time with people who relate and he now has hobbies they never thought possible. Kirsty joined Band of Sisters which she didn’t think would be for her but she absolutely loved the respite weekend she was able to attend and has remained in contact with some other women, valuing the ability to speak openly with others who can fully empathise. They even take respite breaks as a family and their son enjoys the fuss made of him. Kirsty wanted to share their story to make others aware that help and support is available and essential, even if people feel they are coping and don’t need it.

Heather Lake recounts her experience of meeting and marrying Andy while they worked together as Army Chefs. They became engaged and married within six months. Heather had noticed indications of Andy's mental health issues from the start. Andy had completed tours in Northern Ireland and Bosnia prior to meeting Heather. During his tour in Bosnia, Andy sustained injuries from a building collapse, leading to his discharge from the kitchen he was working in at the time. Heather describes one significant event that occurred while Andy was changing his daughter's nappy, resulting in social services removing him from contact with his daughter for 18 months. Andy received an official diagnosis of PTSD only a few years ago and experienced physical decline after his injuries. He is now often confined to a wheelchair. Heather anticipates that an upcoming operation might improve their situation. Heather found support through the Band of Sisters, which she joined through Andy, a member of the Band of Brothers. This group offered her a sense of community and non-judgement. Heather's story reflects dedication and commitment to her family’s happiness. The Band of Sisters provides her with the support she needs as she continues to support her family.

Margaret Jackson had an international outlook on life, having been brought up in Argentina and completed a modern languages degree. She initially worked for Chatham House then joined the War Office in MI(R) in Paris under Colonel Gubbins, liaising with the Czechs and Poles. After evacuation from St Malo, she moved briefly to Coleshilll House where Colonel Gubbins was raising secret companies to form a resistance in case of invasion, and in December 1940 to Baker Street when Gubbins became head of SOE. As someone who was involved with SOE for virtually its whole existence, Margaret Jackson offers a fascinating insight into the unseen world of secretarial support which enabled SOE, and other organisations, to function. She talks extensively about the key officers involved, the culture of secrecy that was taken for granted, the inter-service politics of setting up SOE, relations with de Gaulle and the highest levels of access to information that secretaries enjoyed.